Self-Compassion as a Way of Life
Let This Be the Start of Something Softer
Being Human is Hard Enough
What if you gave yourself a break—on purpose?
So many of us—especially the anxious, high-achieving, perfectionist types—use shame as a motivator. Criticism as a coping strategy. Performance as protection. It works for a while—until it really doesn't. Until you're exhausted, discouraged, and still feeling like you're not enough.
Therapy can be a place where we interrupt that cycle. We’ll slow things down. Get curious. And start building a relationship with yourself that feels more honest and a whole lot more kind.
In our work, we might explore where those inner voices came from—what they were trying to protect you from, and what it could feel like to respond differently. We’ll meet your self-criticism with curiosity and understanding, not judgment. And we’ll practice new ways of relating to yourself that actually feel possible—not performative.
There’s a shift that happens in people when self-compassion really settles in.
I notice it in the room, and often I name it to reflect it back. This is what it feels like to be on your own side.
Self-compassion doesn’t erase struggle—but it changes how you move through it, and gives you a life raft to hold onto when things get hard.
Bonus: What I’ve Learned From Listening to My Own Heart
This work isn’t theoretical for me. I came to self-compassion the way many of my clients do—through grief, anxiety, over-functioning, and the pressure to hold it all together. I’ve spent years learning how to soften toward myself. Slowly. Imperfectly. Again and again. I know what it’s like on the other side of that. And I want you to experience a life with self-compassion too.
What I’ve Learned From Listening
I’ve learned that self-compassion doesn’t always start with love. It often starts with exhaustion, with hitting a wall, with realizing that the way you’ve been talking to yourself isn’t working anymore—and hasn’t been for a long time.
I’ve learned that most people who struggle with self-compassion have really good reasons. Somewhere along the way, they were taught that being hard on themselves was necessary for survival, motivation, protection.
I’ve also seen how that inner harshness doesn’t always stay internal. When we expect perfection from ourselves, we often expect it from others too. The inner critic doesn’t just judge you—it can make it harder to stay in connection, to offer grace, to feel safe enough to soften in relationships.
But I’ve also seen what happens when that critic loses its grip. I’ve seen small kindnesses toward the Self ripple outward into relationships, parenting, boundaries, creativity, rest.
Change doesn’t happen all at once. But it starts here—with how you speak to yourself. Self-compassion opens space for deeper relationships—with self, with others, and with life.
Self-compassion starts here.
Begin the Inquiry Process.
We Often Talk About:
Adaptive Coping Skills & Beliefs • Anxiety • Boundaries That Feel Like Care • Burnout • Caretaking Patterns • Comparison Loops • Embodied Self-Soothing • Family Expectations • Feeling Like Too Much (or Not Enough) • Grief • Internalized Pressure • Learning to Rest • Overachieving & Perfectionism • People-Pleasing • Protective Parts • Reframing Motivation • Relationships & Repair • Self-Compassion Practices • Shame Spirals • Softening • Tiny Moments of Kindness • Unlearning Harshness • What It Means to Be on Your Own Side
My Philosophy of Care
Self-Compassion is at the center of how I hold space for others. This work isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning how to stay with yourself—softly, steadily—even when things feel hard.