Help for Perfectionism
Perfectionism Is a Myth That Equates Perfection With Worth
Unlearning the Myth of “Never Being Enough”
Perfectionism can look like having it all together. Lists checked. Deadlines met. Every detail accounted for.
But it can also look like procrastination. Avoiding the thing altogether because the pressure to get it exactly right is too much. Feeling frozen before you even begin.
Inside, it often feels like walking a tightrope—tense, vigilant, afraid to fall. You might carry a constant undercurrent of anxiety, a fear of disappointing others, or a quiet belief that your worth depends on getting everything just right.
The truth is, perfectionism isn’t about being perfect. It’s about protection. It’s a strategy—often learned early—to earn love, avoid harm, or feel in control in an unpredictable world. And like many strategies, it can become a cage.
Therapy offers a space to lay that burden down. To be with the part of you that’s so tired of performing. To remember what it feels like to be enough—even when things are unfinished, messy, or simply human.
What I’ve Learned From Listening
Perfectionism rarely travels alone. It often arrives with anxiety, shame, burnout, and grief.
I’ve worked with folks who’ve been told they were “too sensitive” or “so mature for their age.” People who took on the emotional labor of their families, or learned early that excellence was the safest way to belong. I’ve sat with those who freeze before starting, edit until the joy is gone, or collapse under the weight of trying to be everything for everyone.
Perfectionism may have helped you survive—but it was never meant to be your whole self.
Together, we make space for the scared parts, the exhausted parts, the ones still waiting for permission to rest. We practice what it means to be held—not just evaluated. To be met—not measured.
You weren’t born to be perfect—you were shaped to survive.
Let’s soften the fear beneath the constant proving, and begin to rebuild from a place of compassion.
What We Talk About in Therapy
Shame • People-Pleasing • Gratitude • Burnout • Chronic Tension • Self-Worth • Mindfulness • Imposter Syndrome • Performance Anxiety • Self-Compassion • Procrastination • Fear Of Failure • All-Or-Nothing Thinking • Childhood Abuse & Neglect • Critical Inner Voice • Self-Forgiveness • Trauma • Nervous System Regulation • Boundaries • Rest • Self-Care • Creativity • Values • Trusting Yourself